Coaching Stuck Emotions

with RIM (Regenerating Images in Memory)

ebook by Michael J. Kline

What is RIM

RIM is a technique that takes clients deeper than cognitive methods of change. It incorporates the left intellectual brain, the right emotional brain, and the body where emotions are held.

Something to Consider

We know that emotions drive decisions and behavior and that 95% of our brain activity is NOT in our left intellectual awareness. We walk through life basically unconscious allowing our past experiences to drive our CURRENT decisions and behavior.

About Emotions

Most of us have been trained by our parents, family, friends, and society to avoid emotions. Stuff them down at all costs and don't show weakness. In some societies around the world showing emotions are strictly forbidden.

Who is the Saboteur

The little voices in our head, the ego, often gets in our way while it's trying to protect us. Every single positive and negative experience we've ever had lies in wait, ready to praise or condemn us and others.

How Emotions Get Stuck

When an emotion is resisted and doesn't get expressed, it expands and festers. This results in the emotion getting stuck in our subconscious memory and body waiting for our ego to use it to protect us, often in unhelpful ways. 

You can think of emotions like a flowing stream. The water is constantly moving just as our emotions are constantly flowing. If a negative emotion is resisted, it's like throwing a boulder into the stream and most of us have many boulders, or even a complete dam. This blocks us from moving our lives forward. We exhaust ourselves trying to work around the stuck emotions, or worse, we are blind to the blocks completely, as we stay stuck. 

Current Solutions Being Used

Coaching, therapy, counselling, etc. are cognitive methods that speak only to the left intellectual brain which has no direct access to the stuck emotions in the body. These methods are extremely valuable in connecting the dots, regulating the stuffed emotions, and figuring out how to manage life in spite of the blocks. With this type of perspective shift or reframe, the client ends up thinking differently, which requires will-power to remember to think that way. This circular thinking does not resolve the stuck emotions in the body.

RIM - A Different Approach

RIM incorporates the whole mind and body during a RIM session. This powerful tool is truly and completely client lead, trusting the client's subconscious to automatically find stuck negative emotional memories which are driving their current decisions and behavior.

During a RIM session, stuck emotions get expressed and released verbally and viscerally. When an actual bolder is found, the client regenerates that image in memory into a new positive memory which creates new neural pathways in the brain. The original negative memory is still intact, but loses the negative charge it once had. The client not only thinks differently, but they also FEEL different.

Creator of RIM

RIM was created by Dr. Deborah Sandella.  Dr. Deb (as we call her) has a Doctorate in Human Communication and a Masters in Psychiatric Nursing. During the first 25 years of her career, she worked in a myriad of mental health settings from intensive services to private practice and innovated two cutting-edge inpatient community-based programs. As an award-winning therapist, University Professor and a Best-selling author, she’s the whole package.

Dr. Deb initially synthesized aspects of Interactive Guided Imagery, Somatic techniques and other skills she’d found effective; yet, as RIM has evolved “through” her rather than “from” her as she humbly describes, it has developed a life of its own as a revolutionary whole-brain way of naturally processing emotion.  And neuroscience now confirms what she’s been teaching for decades.

I was trained directly under Dr. Deb and I continue to assist her with Certification and Master programs. I am her most senior Master Certified Trainers with the RIM Institute.

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